How to ditch the plan and love the chaos

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I did something amazing a few Friday nights ago. I went without a plan.

Let me explain, it sounds like nothing, but it was really a magical something. It was barely cold… winter’s full force had not yet knocked us down with its fierce blustering winds. Not yet were we sprawled under warm sheets for hours watching little white petals drip from the sky. So we went out with the camera in one hand, and love in the other. We had no reason to be out other than to see what there was to cradle into our chasm of memories. As I snapped at whatever I wanted, hoping for jewels in the dark skies and shadowed sidewalks, I was reminded that really, there are many reason we all ought to embrace the chaos a little more often and let the world happen.
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You might miss something beautiful.

The best moments happen spontaneously. One moment passes and as the lights blur out of focus a soul drifts through your path. They are forever etched into your life, embedded in a photograph preserved by time itself. When plans control our lives, it’s so easy to miss these miniscule fragments on the sidewalk. Why always be in such a hurry? Whenever there is an opportunity to slow down the ringing of life’s bell, it is best to seize it and hold that jewel tightly clenched in your palm until the imprint is forever molded into your body. Do not let tiny treasures slip by your face in the city’s whirl.

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It’s a break for the mind.

Spontaneity is the loosening of all the tightly wound coils keeping the brain in place. It is the hot bath your soul needs after a month of hasty showers. So much of our lives are stuck in a flurry and before we know it the lights have swirled round and round and round – then darkness eats the
scene. As you watch the world zip by in a furor of bright lights, as you hold each other close, let the dance become lackadaisical until you can hear each other’s heart beating.

Only then will the mind find true freedom. The freedom from responsibility in that moment. The freedom to love anything and anyone for any reason. It will feel like a thousand pounds have been cut from your back.

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You find little surprise locations for creating memories

With those pounds shed so far away, it is easier to adventure with clear eyes. There are so many lovely things to see in a city, but the hidden gems are the best to hold close. The alcoves that you
never knew existed until their paths slowly untwisted onto your feet. The little scraps of city that no one else seems to desire -These are the medicines your mind needs. With your own little secret garden, chunks of time will be frozen into eternity. The possible blurs of hidden kisses and hastily eaten donuts are suddenly sharper with hope.

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As we embrace our new hidden joys, the chaos grows into a familiar dance and suddenly, briskly, we are woken from the stupor of repetition. After all, plans, while an important part of our life, need to be used in the same moderation one would give to crisp lagers in the summer sun.
Too much will make you sick. So I long for nights without plans. Nights to roam the streets looking for scraps of love wherever I can find them. More frequently, I would like to sit back and take my hands off the steering wheel of life. The autopilot does a fine job of it’s own volition.
Do you ever go set out in the city without
a plan? What kind of beautiful stories do you have from unplanned events?


Stay Beautiful,


  • Agree so much with the sentiment behind this post! I'm guilty of always having to plan wherever I go and it takes so much of the fun and spontaneity out of it.
    The Snap Narrative

    • Yay! Take a few hours off plan and get out on the town this weekend! 🙂

  • Oh I a hundred percent agree with you!! The best times of my life have been when I set out without a plan and just moved where the night took me!! =) I met my husband on a chance 80's bar night a friend had invited me too on a whim! =P

    Melanie | Blog: Toots + Dill

    • Ohhh, see? You would have missed something beautiful had you stayed home. I am so glad you said yes!

  • i love this and i completely agree, i'm actually the type of person that's awful at planning and likes to go with the flow. you never know what can happen!

    danielle | avec danielle

    • I could learn from you. I tend to plan way too much. In fact, it irritates my husband how much I plan things. I'm getting better though – I felt so much lighter after taking these.

  • The photos you took are breathtakingly beautiful! Spontaneity is needed sometimes! It's good for you! That's something I have to work on, LOL because I always have lists for days. LOVE your outfits! They look so good!

    • Spontaneity lightens certainly lightens the soul. I tend to have lists for days too, but I am learning.

  • Wow, you are such a poet with words! And your photos are incredible! Being spontaneous is normally how I go about most weekends. I am all lists, planning, etc., during the week but once Friday afternoon hits, I am ready to get into my car and go somewhere!
    What an great post!
    Take care,
    C |

    • Thank you, lovely. I think I will try to incorporate that mindset into my life – weekends should be for whatever!

  • Loved this post! I must keep that in mind and go out from time to time just to enjoy such amazing moments! Very well written! Thanks for sharing the thought! ^_^

    • Thank you! I am so glad you enjoyed it!

  • This is amazing! I love this idea so much! Your posts are so inspiring! Now I want to venture out into NYC with my camera and no plan and just go where my interest takes me!

    • Oh, please do! If you go out, be sure to post on the blog or Instagram because I am dying to see what you find. And thank you for your kind words.

  • i totally agree with you. amazing things happen if i just go with the flow. have a nice day.
    love from India.

    xoxo Eva |

  • Great tips, there's always so much fun when you don't completely stick to a rut!
    Fashion Soup

  • Beautiful photos. I love the bokeh 🙂

    Enclothed Cognition/Bloglovin

  • This is such a lovely post! I'm such a control freak and always need to plan everything, otherwise I tend to get a little anxious, but whenever I do happen to do something spontaneous, I always end up having so much fun!

    Thirteen Thoughts

  • I don't do this much, but when I do I love it so much! Doing something without a plan, having a night out without a destination is the best feeling in the world and it creates so many beautiful memories 🙂

    -Leta | The Nerdy Me

    • Yep, some of my best memories are from an unplanned night out!

  • Nice photos! ♡

    ♡ Nature photos ♡

  • I'm a girl with a plan. I've always been that girl who had a five year plan and aware of tomorrow's work and the next day's etc. It has worked for me for years. But the few times I have experienced the spontaneity of life…they have been the best moments of my life. But that makes more special for a planner like me <3

    xx Bash | H E Y   B A S H | bloglovin'

  • Great post and I love your photos! Such a great reminder for those of us who feel like we always need to have a plan. You're so right, the best moments happen spontaneously.

    xx, Caitlin

  • Your writing and the photography are A+!! Love your blog.

    Hannie Arden from Missing Wanderer.

  • What a lovely post and pretty pictures! I agree that while there is nothing wrong with planning – in fact planning makes things possible much of the time! – it is also important to be open to being spontaneous and embracing the unplanned. Some of the best moments come out of times when you simply let the wind take you where it wants you to go.

    Rae | Love from Berlin

  • True.. once in a while plans don't go right and they seem boring. What a lovely pictures of yours! xx

    Love, Dayu | Fairytale Odyssey

  • These pictures are actually like heart stopping, made me feel like a detective or something, I love being spontaneous makes things so much more fun! Hate plans!

    Meme x