How to Love Valentine’s Day When You Hate Valentine’s Day


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“Whenever I get gloomy with the state of the world, I think about the arrivals gate at Heathrow Airport. General opinion’s starting to make out that we live in a world of hatred and greed, but I don’t see that. It seems to me that love is everywhere. Often, it’s not particularly dignified or newsworthy, but it’s always there – fathers and sons, mothers and daughters, husbands and wives, boyfriends, girlfriends, old friends. When the planes hit the Twin Towers, as far as I know, none of the phone calls from the people on board were messages of hate or revenge – they were all messages of love. If you look for it, I’ve got a sneaky feeling you’ll find that love actually is all around.” – Love Actually.

The above is one of my favorite quotes of all time from one of my favorite films. Although primarily being a film to be viewed around Christmas time, this quote has really been gnawing inside me lately. The reason? Because I hate Valentine’s Day.

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Yes, you did read that right. For years my husband and I both have boycotted the idea of another commercial holiday trying to slip money from your tingling fingers while creating the image that if you don’t show how much you love someone by giving them an expensive gift, you might as well be single. In fact, if you are single, Valentine’s Day is even worse – a message that you are missing something. I really, really, hate that concept, because love truly is in every nook and cranny on this planet.

You see, Love is a powerful creature with a wingspan to rival that of the greatest eagle – if only we will let the wings spread wide. Love is about everyone around you. Everyone is in this great wide sea that we call a planet. Love is about cherishing each life that walks into yours…. The marauder whizzing by on a motorcycle, the lady looking at flowers in the super market, or even your postman. Love is so much more than the taunts of consumerism and self completion. Love is rambles about love and love is a disease worth sharing.

That is why this year, I am taking a different approach. No more grumbling about commercialism or consumption (though I loathe both of those practices). Instead, I am going to choose to love, because really, it’s all we’ll ever need. Here are a few things you can do to show love to yourself and others, and you don’t have to spend very much money on a single one of them.

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Create love all around you. Just like we discussed, non romantic relationships need love and nourishment too. Call someone you love and make a date. Make homemade Valentine’s Cards and leave them in public places for strangers. Buy a dozen roses and gift them to everyone you see that day. Have all your single friends (or even couples who loathe commercial holidays) over for cocktails and pizza. Just spend time with those you love and let them know that you appreciate their touch in your life.

Dress up for the love of it. Wear the frilliest dress you own, even if it’s not in Valentine’s colors. I feel one million times better dressed to kill, so take that time to put together an outfit you love. Wear your brightest lipstick and polish your nails with your favorite red. With confidence running through our veins, we will not care about commercial sales. We will love ourselves (which is important too) and smile at everyone who walks into our lives.

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Indulge is a few heart shaped treats. You know, just to get in the mood. I don’t like to feed the commercial pig, but let’s be realistic. Who doesn’t love cookies or candy? Who isn’t happy to be surprised with chocolate and red wine for supper? A sweet taste on the tongue is always welcome, especially to someone being painfully reminded that Singles Awareness has come knocking on the door again. To avoid spending, simply cut toast into heart shapes or make your very own sugar cookies to share with those around you. If you do choose to buy, share chocolates with people in your workplace or classroom. Just don’t buy those chalky hearts that are in these pictures. They still taste as bad as you remember.

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Make a list of things you love and keep it with you all the day. Find some things you are grateful for. Write them down on pretty paper with your favorite pen. Reflect on these things and realize that, no matter how horrid this world may seem to be at times, it really is such a sweet life. Showing gratitude can turn your mouth from sour to sweet and make that frown begin to creep up to the corners of your ears so don’t be afraid let it flow. There is nothing in this world more satisfying than the candied flavor of gratitude.

Make a donation to a shelter – time or money. Remember, no matter how desperate our souls may feel, there is probably someone else with a harder life. Embrace this. Do something to change someone else’s day, whether it’s dropping off a hot lunch in front of a homeless man or donating your time to an animal shelter. Helping others makes us appreciate our lives and feel complete. It’s the glaze to our donut, so spread it liberally and often.

That said, whatever you choose to do, no matter who has that tender place in your heart, I hope you have a wonderful and beautiful Valentine’s Day. Whether you show some love to your brother, a boyfriend, your cat, or a barista, make sure you stamp this moment in time with a kiss.

Stay beautiful,


  • I love this post! I feel the same way about commercial holidays, and it seems like I am always grouching about them. These are good ways to turn that frown upside down and focus on the positive! πŸ™‚

    • Thanks! I hope you have a great day and both do something nice for others and receive something nice from others!

  • Such a lovely post! Now that I'm married, I don't care too much for Valentine's day. It was fun when my husband and I were dating, but nowadays, I'd rather stay home, cook a nice meal together and have a glass of wine, watch a movie or just talk for hours πŸ˜‰ I'm lucky enough to feel like everyday is Valentine's Day. And I wouldn't even dare to go out to a restaurant on the 14th- can't stand the crowds haha πŸ˜‰

    Thirteen Thoughts

    • OMG YES. We have never, ever gone out to a restaurant on Valentine's Day because it's seriously the worst. We always hang out at home instead. And yeah! We don't need a calendar date to do something nice for each other. We try to do that every day.

  • I've always liked the idea of Valentine's Day, but I've never been in a relationship (sad face), so that kind of makes it tough to appreciate it. I do however love Galentine's Day, so that I can show love to my best gals, though obviously I can do that on Valentine's Day or any day of the year haha! I love Love Actually so much and love that quote! These are great ideas! I'm definitely dressing up and eating heart-shaped foods!

    • Do it! See? This is why I don't like the exclusivity of Valentine's. Do something you love girl, and feel it all around you. Nice to see some appreciate for Love Actually too. πŸ™‚

  • Lovely ideas!

    I've always loved Valentines Day, and never really understood why people didn't, even when I was single I would get together with my single friends and we would swap home made cards, or I would use it as an excuse to buy special offer Champagne and stay in and watch a slushy movie.

    I think that I've never really bought into the commercial bit, but it's just an excuse to celebrate love, and I am a big fan of a theme day!

    • Yes, themes can be fun if only we make them joyous!

  • This is such a lovely post and a nice change from your typical valentines day post
    The Lipstick, The Girl and Her Wardrobe

  • Great post! I think they've turned every holiday into something commercial. I've been single for a very long time, that's why I just treat myself to things I want & love. Everyone should celebrate it to their liking.

    • I feel that way about most holidays! You do you!

  • I don't actually entirely hate Valentines. But often times, I hate seeing couples flirting with each other and being all cheesy. I know for some people, I'm bitter. But I don't think I am, because I have several OTPs, that's enough reason to say that I don't hate couples that much. I just don't like couples flirting in front of me. Funny but true.

    But these tips are really helpful. Instead of being sad or mad because of Valentines, instead show some love to yourself, friends, family, and other people who deserve it.

    Love, Fads

    • Eh, I don't care for cheesy PDA either. I would kill my husband if he started making moves on me in public!

  • I don't really hate Valentine's Day. But I am not a fan of it. I do think that it has become a commercial celebration and is all about buying expensive gifts and dozens of roses. I feel like it's very overrated. Why can't you show affection and love every other day? Why do we need to wait for February 14th to gift something to your other half or to make a romantic night out?
    I just feel like it shouldn't be celebrated the way it is. Yes, it should be all about love – like you said – and I completely agree with you. Also, I loved this post! x

    -Leta | The Nerdy Me

    • Thank you! I think we can and should show some love every day – not just when the calendar says to.